Ok dear people.
The day before Valentine’s day and all through the stores, people shopping and stressing to buy more and more. If they buy chocolates, nighties and a card; well then will their love one will fall and fall hard. Or a fancy dinner and a sparkly new ring, as the credit card goes ching ching. All of this done under the guise of love, a chance to shower your precious little dove.
Whew alot of pressure huh? What do you do for Valentine’s day? What are your thoughts about this holiday? I do think it is sweet to show your love to those that have your heart BUT I do think there is a bit of pressure to give gifts. Do you want to know my opinion? I know you may say no, well sorry I am still going to share it!
I think it doesn’t have to be extravagant or expensive affair. What I think some women want, myself included, is sentiment and heart felt expression. Tell us how you feel, a simple card always means alot. Look at us like you did in those first couple of dates. Look past our graying hair and the outward shell changes but look at us like the best dessert you have ever enjoyed. A back rub, watch a movie you hate but know she loves. Tell us we smell good, look cute, or that we have a kind heart. Husbands clean the house or her favorite pizza for dinner or sneak away for a car ride under the stars and go parking. Yeah, I am immature. What I am saying is women want your time and affection. They want to know that they matter and you desire their company, to know they are desired and that there are moments just for the two of you. Those times are the ones that get tucked in your heart
Now I can’t speak for the men out there, but I kind of have an idea of what they may like. They like some candy or sweets like the rest of us. Their favorite whiskey or cold beer. I think they want to be made to feel they are hotter than a hot cross bun. That we see the young man he once was but the amazing man he has become. That he snells good, you love how his hands look while holding yours, that you could get lost in his eyes and you appreciate him. That you look at them like you do your favorite glass of wine. They don’t care about a clean house or maybe not even some of the romantic thoughts we entertain. But I think they want to feel desired and wanted. Shaved legs (ours) and clean sheets, dressing up or dressing down. Lingerie or none. They want our attention and crave our touch and be appreciated as much as we want.
The roses are pretty (but too dang expensive). Who doesn’t love a pretty piece of jewelry? Who says they will start their diet after the dinners and chocolate gorge? But when the flowers wilt, the jewelry becomes tarnished and your pants are too tight from all the calories, well what is left? Those private moments, those inside jokes, the quiet moments reflecting your love and the passionate moments that make you blush. Those moments when you open your hearts, share your thoughts, kiss until you can’t breathe and then a few more. The everyday moments and everyday feelings.
I guess what I am trying to say is the simplest gestures can touch a heart as much as the extravagant. If you go all out and that is your style, good for you!! But do what you want. Resist the pressure of performing what is expected. Think outside the box and do what works for you. I have experienced solitary Valentine’s days, I have experienced what is expected celebrations, tried to spice up the day (yeah answered the door to my ex husband only in an apron and got laughed at and worried someone would see me–what a butthole he was lol). I have celebrated the love of my kids and family, and loved on a special someone in my life. I have always wanted the romantic side of things. Feelings and passion, laughter and love. So just think for a minute….what is wrong with that? What is wrong for wanting the simple joys celebrated in a healthy relationship? Let your loved one know you appreciate them and they matter more than someone else or your ohone and all of the apps within these smart devices. Tell me how you feel, play with my hair (or even a tug, yeah I said that) let me know how I matter and well I will so do in kind. The special, sweetest moments matter. Dinner at a favorite local place, sit on the couch holding hands, the kiss followed by hust one more. Our hearts can be so full from these moments and I feel like in my humble opinion, will be remembered more than the roses and candy. Besides, how are we supposed to fit into that special outfit or lingerie or that apron if we have ate 10 heart shaped boxes of candy? Just a thought.
People, enjoy the day. Enjoy the week. Enjoy the person placed in your life and let them know what is in your heart and let someone know they are loved. Life is short and fragile, love can be elusive or all encompassing. So celebrate the love you have been blessed with, celebrate just to celebrate. Valentine’s day is but one day, but wouldn’t it be amazing to feel that love everyday? Simple can be best my friends and the rewards beyond simplistic. Just a thought my friends.
